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Recently we were approached by one of our lovely neighbours at The Orange Grove Complementary Health Clinic inviting us to do a talk to their new fertility support group, (the first of its kind in this region,) for women and men who are experiencing difficulties conceiving. The group meets the first Friday of every month, from 7pm to 8:30pm and is hosted by Rebecca Geanty, a fully qualified acupuncturist and specialist in natural fertility.
Having heard that Sinsins has previously delivered talks and seminars to Relate Counsellors, The Institute of Psychosexual Medicine and The Gynaecology Unit at The Norfolk & Norwich Hospital, plus a whole host of other health related organisations and experts, Rebecca came to us with details of her exciting new project.
There is a lot of common ground between The Orange Grove and Sinsins Boutique Of Love: with one end goal in mind both businesses lend themselves to the well-being of their customers and clients. We both strive for that dreamy balance of personal happiness, personal awareness, healthy lifestyle, inner self confidence, a positive outlook and a loving relationship weighed up against the vagaries and exigencies of that exhausting devil we call the daily routine. Rebecca’s fertility project fits the Sinsins brief well.
Delivering a seminar on fertility was a first for Sinsins, and it was with a mix of excitement and beginners nerves that Martin, owner of Sinsins, met the group awaiting him. What a fabulous group of people they were too.
After brief introductions, the seminar became more of a discussion group as couples and individuals opened up about their experiences, worries and hopes.
Hints, tips, techniques and practices were all discussed but one of the main common factors to come out of it was the mechanics issue. When we strive to achieve a goal, it is all too easy to do it in a mechanical, tabulated format and to lose sight of the shared emotions of the journey.
Comments made by many within the group backed this up - health professionals are friendly enough but quite matter of fact and meticulous with their timetables, diets etc.... One big problem that comes with not achieving your goal having gone through so much is the silent emotional fallout.
The point where you start beating yourself up for (in your own words) ‘failing’. The longer the time span develops the more pressure you put upon yourself, and almost everyone else seems to be babied up! They’re everywhere.. babies pushed by in buggies or in discussion or in the media. The longing for conception intensifies and the personal, emotional stress compounds.
Some were fed up with the lack of results and the hidden torture from strict orthodox methodology, instead of the suggestion to step out and relearn the 'take it easy and relax' approach. Others were worried that if they didn't stick to the routine they would miss out.
It’s a tricky one to call when we are not in the individuals’ footsteps. Whatever option is taken, the key point is not to lose sight of being happy. Endorphins are much more likely to provide a positive result than a gutful of stress.
And then there was the other bombshell. Sperm samples. Forgive us for speaking out of line on this, but surely trying for a baby is a blend of the sensual, the emotional, and ultimate romantic unity? So what does the clinic do? Couples were driving miles, only to be split up on arrival.... she goes off for egg prep, he goes off to produce a sperm sample. Splitting the couple up seems outmoded to us – but lets assume we are just being naïve and far too dreamy in our
way of thinking. The crunch that is difficult to swallow is the fact that the chap gets ushered off to a room by himself with grubby old porn magazines and a hard-core dvd! What reasonable modern thinker believes this to be acceptable? It’s sordidly mechanical and hardly a delight to behold for either the father or mother to be.
Think about it for one moment. A relationship. A love. A couple. A baby... and the chap is expected to go and masturbate in secret, on his own whilst getting off on the pleasure of watching women other than his wife/partner performing hardcore sex acts. We tried to explain this away in an educated manner and we discussed why it might be that his partner wasn’t allowed to join him to help nature achieve the sample... is it because the thought of two responsible adults together is revolting? Or maybe the hygiene risk which would spoil the sample? Maybe we are once again guilty of being way too naïve, but we fail to see there is any good reason for this practice. It seems detrimental and degrading to the whole experience of a couple who are in love and trying to produce something totally glorious out of
The Orange Grove provide a range of well-being treatments and advice, and Rebecca is particularly keen to expand her fertility share group. If you or a friend of yours is in a similar predicament do get in touch.
Sinsins would like to extend a massive thank you to Rebecca and all who came to the fertility share group. It was a pleasure to meet you and we sincerely wish you all good luck with your dreams.
LONG LIVE LOVE
Team Sinsins x
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